The indications of a good parent
When we come into this world, parents are the first human being we meet (oh...please skip your thought about nurses and doctors) and they are the first and most important guides in everyone's life. Everything we ever become later in our life, is pretty much built on the foundation made by our parents. Parenting is a complicated endeavor and responsibility. And its a harsh truth that no parent is perfect in carrying out their responsibilities. The way of different parents may seems to be different but all the parents strive to be good . Keeping this in mind, let's focus on some of the points that can make parenting easy and more better-
#1. Getting along with each other :
One of the most important things that differentiate great parents is how they interact with each other. Children who are subjected to parents who don’t get along with each other (whether married or divorced) aren’t as well adjusted as those from families where there isn’t parental conflict. Researchers also note that kids from a single parent family may actually fare better than those who come from a two-parent home where the parents fight often. Good parents know, that no matter what happens between them, if they want their kids to grow up happy and well adjusted, they’ve got to figure out a way to get along.
#2. Need of physical affection :
Childrens grow up on warmth and affection both conditions but later a difference in both childrens are seen. A child who feels loved, will have greater self-esteem. A warm touch or a caring hug can let a child know how much a parent cares. Physical affection lessens the chances of children becoming aggressive, anti-social and having other behavioral problem. While adolescents may be embarrassed by physical affection, there should always be words of support and empathy to take its place - and great parents know that.
#3. Spending a quality time with children:
Great parents spend quality time with each of their kids. Children have different personalities, and some may seem to need less time than others - but their will be a benefit from spending a quality time with their parents. It can be anything from playing sports, to cooking, or helping with chores. There is no better way for parents to show their children how much they love and cherish them. On busy work days, when they may not have a lot of time with their children, parents should make insure that they should not have longer distance with them.
#4. Understanding and listening Parenting :
Parents often spend a lot of their time talking to their kids, rather than listening them. But, we all want to be heard. We all want to know that we matter. When a child feels hurt, parents have an opportunity to show them that it’s okay, and talk through it. Regardless of how old their children are, great parents make sure that they take the time to listen to their kids, and to understand their thoughts, fears and concerns. Acknowledging children’s thoughts will help them to develop the confidence they need later on, to take risks and challenge themselves. All the kids wants parents who behave and understand them as a friend so that they can be more comfortable towards them. Parents need to be frank to their kids so that the child don't feel awkward and could share their every problem openly. If the child is in depression good parent talk to them about their problems and help them to come out of it.
Parents want their kids to succeed and for that they may push, prod, bribe, demand, or even threaten kids with punishment to get them to practice an instrument, excel at a sport, achieve top grades, and so on. Scolding the most of times may lead to depression. But good parents know that being a Tiger Mom(or Dad) isn't likely to get children further than providing them with guidance and support, and gently nudging - if they need it.
#6. Empowerment of children :
Some of the parents don’t make their children the center of the universe and allow their lives to revolve around their children. But kids who dictate what the family is going to eat for dinner, or those who orchestrate how to spend their weekends, have too much power. Children who think they’re the center of the universe grow up to be self-absorbed and entitled. Great parents empower their kids to make appropriate choices while maintaining a clear hierarchy and teach their children to focus on what they have to offer the world - rather than what they owes.
#7. Don’t Confuse Discipline With Punishment:
Punishment is about making kids suffer for their wrong doing. Discipline is about teaching them the way to do better within the future. And while great parents do give out consequences, their ultimate goal is to teach kids to develop the self-discipline they’ll need to make better choices down the road.
#8. Encouraging of Kids in new activities:
Some children have no problem trying a new activity, while others are just never quite up for it. Many children tends to avoid unfamiliar activities.They prefer not to attempting risk or doing something new, leading to missed opportunities and setting a negative pattern that can persist into adult life. Great parents encourage their kids to try things that can push them out of their comfort zones. But, they make sure that they're pushing their kids for the right reason i.e - simply to try something, and not because they want their children to be something they're not.
#9. Identifying their talents :
It's very important for the parents to protect, preserve And develop their children’s Unique Gifts i.e. Identifying talents in their children & it’s equally important to nurture them. This goes hand in hand with the previous point. Parents can best recognize their children’s talents by giving them opportunities to explore many realms of expression and nothing their interests and abilities. Children are like sponges that soak up the reactions and actions of people around them - when they sense genuine interest in their abilities, there’s no limit to what they can do to become even better. Great parents encourage and inspire their children to build their self-esteem and confidence in their gifts and talents, and they create a suitable environment for their kids to express themselves freely and openly.
#10. Teaching How To Interact With Others:
One of the most important skill which parents need to pass on to their children is social skills. This affects everything they’ll go on to do from their friendships, romantic relationships, to their career. Social kids grow up to be happy, successful,and smart adults. A 20-year study found that parents who teach their children how to interact with others, are helping them to develop the skills they need to be highly capable adults. In fact, the study noted that socially competent children's are 4 times more likely to earn a college degree by the time they’re 25.
#11. Acknowledging Their Mistakes And Apologize :
Parents teach their kids to own up to things they did wrong and apologize and try to make up for what they did. This is just as (if not more) important for parents to do themselves. Good parents know that they too sometimes make mistakes - and they learn from them, and show their kids how to take responsibility for their actions.
#12. Giving responsibilities to children:
It increases their worth. They know if they do these things, they will get rewarded. And, it’s not about monetary payments. It’s about showing them that they need to care for their things. They need to cherish what they have, and home is the first place to start. Giving kids responsibilities and having them follow through is an effective way to teach them accountability. Challenges are important in life, the way sandpaper is mandatory to make a piece of wood smooth, so the obstacles and adversities in life make it worth living.
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#13. Strive to be a role model :
Children learn more from what their parents do instead of what they assert. Sometimes, parents unknowingly become a wrong role model by few unhealthy behaviours for their kids. For example, a father spends his evenings watching TV but tells his 14-year-old daughter she should read more. Great parents strive to be great role models- not only through direct interactions with their children, but through the examples they set with their attitude and behavior within the family and in the outside world. They take the opportunities every day to provide their kids with learning experiences so they can see how to behave appropriately.
#14. Growth Mindset :
A growth mindset is based on the idea that intelligence and personality are not fixed traits you are born with - but can be developed and grown into something more over time, with some efforts. No one’s potential is a foregone conclusion, because you don’t know what may be achieved with passion and years of dedication and hardwork. For parents, maintaining a growth mindset when it comes to their children means that they give them support and opportunity to succeed. Great parents encourage their children’s development, allow them to fail so that they may learn from it, and never subscribe to the idea that their children lack potential. Failure is the key to success and gives a lot of experience that would tend them what to do and what not to do.
#15. Participating In Their Children’s Education:
Great parents are fully invested in their children’s education. A child who knows that his parents are part of his education, tends to work harder. Positive reinforcement comes when parents help their children learn - this also becomes a time to spend together as a family. Children need to know and feel that their parents care about their education and their future. Now-a-days parents also have a busy schedule but it's important to participate them in their kids education. Many parents thought they had got admissions of their childrens in the school, now they are free and the school is wholly responsible for the children's performance. If the child is getting poor marks they blame that the teachers are not teaching well and the school is not good so they sometimes change their school also. But don't think what's their duty? Great parents understand this rather than blaming others. In such a busy working days parents sometimes can't join their children's performance or sometimes ignore these activities, it leads to disappointment of the child. Parents should be active towards their children's education and should participate as much as possible.
#16. Raising a confident child:
Often parents teach the foundation for success is founded by the trials and errors of challenges. Good parents know that it’s vital to teach their children that they can work hard and have success, and they also understand the importance to reward their children when they accomplish things in school or at home. Kids’ self-confidence increases to higher levels when they know that their parents are in full support of what they do. Raising a confident child with healthy self-worth, means being genuine, and understanding their strengths and weaknesses. Children have to learn that not everything turns out great all the time, and they’re not always going to be a “winner” - but in trying and persevering, they can reach any goal they want.
#17. Encouraging the child to walk on their own path :
Parents should have to encourage their children to walk their own path. Great parents don’t try to impose unrealistic and unsuitable expectations on their children. They encourage their kids to always follow their hearts - even if it makes little or no sense to others. Good parents constantly remind their children that each and every one of us is meant to walk on a unique path in life, and that only by walking on their own path will they always remember who they really are, where they come from, and where they 're going.
#18. Practising Self -Care by Parents :
Great parents understand that prioritising self-care is a huge protective factor when it comes to raising healthy children. Parents who appropriately manage their own stress, will in turn, be more relaxed and thoughtful as parents, while at the same time teaching their children how to regulate their own emotions in a healthy way.
#19. Teaching Them The Importance of Things
Parents need to teach their children the importance of things. They feel that their children should not feel lacking in facilities. Usually they provide such things to their children easily, which have a very bad effect on their mind. Because the ease with which they get things, they feel that the thing can be obtained easily. So, they do not give priority to those things. For an example if their child loses a ball and they provide another ball instead of finding it, then child's brain learnt that if a ball or something is lost they can buy him another, it makes them careless. It will not help them to know the sense of loss in life. One should have self-consolation, and self-understanding in order to bear the loss. Self-realisation and self-understanding are most effective and lasting when it is taught by the parents in very early ages.
These were the 19 things great parents do differently for their kids.
Why you need this qualities? - The Conclusion
Parenting is a journey that test your patience and understanding and if you passed it, it may give you a better result in the form of a good human who is happy, successful and loved by all and he/she will be your child. It's parents responsibility to pamper their children with great sacraments, principles, moral values and ethics. Some parents follow textbook parenting techniques, others believe on their own instincts to take decisions and handle the behavior of their children. While much of the parenting journey varies depending on the children’s actions, cultivating these qualities can certainly go a long way. So it would not be wrong to say that home is our first school and parents are our first teachers.Must see this post : How principles, morals, ethics, discipline influence to make good decisions in life.
"Children are like wet clay, you can make them in the structure as you like, but once you have given the shape, you cannot change them and in this work potter's role is played by the parents".
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